Is worrying what others think holding you back?

Showing up and being accepted in this world is a nagging thought that everyone holds. Unfortunately, it’s all you think about, and it’s holding you back from your greatness.

The truth is other people aren’t thinking about you as much as you think they are. They’re thinking about themselves. Worrying about what others think about you is the thief of joy. It’s the thief of joy because you’re restricting yourself from being your true self. What usually comes after worrying about what others think of you is adjustments to your behavior or personality to fit what they like. Sometimes it happens consciously, and other times it’s an unconscious change.

I remember back when I was young in my career; I worried what others thought of me. As a result, I went through a slow evolution of change to what I thought would make me fit into that world. It wasn’t about the work I did; it was all about how I dressed, what I selected for fun, and the T.V. shows I watched. I wanted to fit in. However, I evolved into a person more aligned to the culture of the people I worked with. This has also happened in dating relationships as well.

Worrying about what others think about you is how you slowly lose the true essence of who you are.

Here are 3 ways you can move toward worrying more about what you think about yourself than what others think.

Look for evidence

Your mind has a way of running away with thoughts that aren’t true. The next time your thoughts run wild, worrying if someone likes you or you’ve rubbed them the wrong way, look for the evidence. The worry you’re having is whether or not your behavior was perceived a certain way, thus making you question if you’re liked. The way someone perceives your behavior is not your responsibility. If you’re intent within your behavior is kind and respectful, there is no reason to worry about how you’re being perceived. Everyone is living life through their own perception, and it is exhausting trying to figure how your behavior is being received.

Review your track record

Worrying about what others think is a sign that you don’t recognize your value. When you start feeling insecure about your value, the best way to get out of this thought spiral is to recall all of your good deeds and accomplishments. I keep a list of these on the notes app on my phone to refer to when my thoughts get out of control.

Seek clarity

If you’re worried about what others think about you, you lack clarity of what you want in your life. You have been going along with someone else’s plan, and you’re looking for validation as you go along your journey. When you know what you want in life and follow those desires, it doesn’t matter what others think because you’re focused on your journey. Get clear on what you want in your life and start following that path. Eventually, the validation you looked for on the outside will shift to you validating yourself to ensure you follow the path that brings you the most joy.

What you think of yourself is more important than what others think.

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Christmas Hutchinson

Christmas Hutchinson

Christmas is a Growth Mindset Coach and Host of The ChrissyTV Podcast. Connect with her at www.chrissytv.com.